Ep. 185- "Getting Real" with Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking Aleeza Ben Shalom

I met Aleeza around 2002 when we both attended retreats for a Jewish spirituality organization called Isralight. I am so proud of her amazing success as a Matchmaker and her show Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix. 

• Matchmaking Origins: Aleeza's journey as a matchmaker started organically by setting up friends and recognizing matchmaking as her calling.
• Vision and Goals: The importance of dreaming big and revising goals to align with personal and professional growth.
• Counterintuitive Dating Advice: Aleeza advocates for seeing potential in every date, going with a mindset of "soulmate until proven not," and normalizing the effort to set up others monthly.
• Overcoming Challenges: Jason and Aleeza highlight the value of reframing negative beliefs, whether in dating or professional growth, using tools like mindset shifts and persistence.
• Collaboration and Impact: Both stress the significance of partnerships, mentorships, and creating community support systems in business and personal life.

Topics Covered:

1. The journey from informal matchmaking to becoming "The Jewish Matchmaker."
2. Counterintuitive advice, including "Date them till you hate them" and fostering patience in relationships.
3. How belief systems and reframing language impact dating, relationships, and professional growth.
4. The intersection of personal branding, niching down, and entrepreneurial challenges.
5. The role of collaboration, epigenetics, and community support in achieving long-term success.

From Aleeza Ben Shalom:

• “When you build couples, it builds a community, and you build the world.”
• “Assume that the person you’re dating is your soulmate until proven not.”
• “Everyone can make a match suggestion—one a month—whether it’s for friends, family, or anyone.”
• “Slow down to move fast. Break before the curve so you can gas into it.”
• “Collaboration is your ticket to success; it’s not about competition but about building together.”
• “How we talk about and describe problems often holds the key to unlocking them.”
• “I believe we often set goals too small; what we call a goal is really just an action step.”
• “The worst thing someone can say is yes—because that means you have to rise to the challenge.”
• “Our belief systems are the biggest hurdles in personal and professional growth.”

Recommended Action Items:

1. For Individuals:
   • Adopt Aleeza’s advice: “Date them till you hate them.” Assume potential until proven otherwise.
   • Make one match suggestion a month to connect others, contributing to community well-being.
2. For Entrepreneurs:
   • Reflect on whether your goals are action steps or true milestones. Adjust accordingly.
   • Embrace collaboration and seek out mentors or partnerships to scale your vision.
3. For Personal Growth:
   • Reframe negative beliefs and language about challenges in dating or business.
   • Identify a limiting belief about a partner, colleague, or yourself, and work on releasing it.

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