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You Winning Life
Ep. 177-Navigating Business Growth and Work-Life Harmony with Eric Esteves
Embark on a transformative journey with us as Eric Esteves, a luminary in the entrepreneurial landscape, unfolds the map to his ascent from a corporate cog to the creator of a bustling mortgage empire. By tuning in, you'll grasp the essence of business scaling, the unexpected challenges that ambush you along the way, and how familial ties intertwine with professional pursuits. Eric's ventures are not just about business; they're a testament to his role as a father, partnering with his daughter to cultivate a thriving business, a narrative that promises to inspire and enlighten.
The landscape of leadership is ever-evolving, and in this episode, we wade through the personal growth that complements professional triumphs. From his leap into the mortgage industry, Eric shares the trenches dug for trust-building and the necessity of assembling a team that's a mosaic of niche expertise. The collision of self-improvement, humility, and self-awareness is dissected, shining a beacon on how they coalesce to forge powerful connections and opportunities. Enter the sanctum where mentors of all walks breathe life into our continuous journey of evolution.
In our pursuit of life's summits, we often teeter on the tightrope of balance. Here, we navigate through the strategies that anchor us—a blend of presence, gratitude, and the celebration of the now—as we ward off the specters of mental exhaustion. Support systems are our lifelines, and setting boundaries our armor, as we strive for a work-life harmony that echoes our deepest values. Close the chapter with us as we unravel how our beliefs sculpt our reality, inviting you to challenge and redefine your assumptions, laying the groundwork for success that truly resonates.
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This is the you Winning Life podcast your number one source for mastering a positive existence. Each episode will be interviewing exceptional people giving you empowering insights and guiding you to extraordinary outcomes. Learn from specialists in the worlds of integrative and natural wellness, spirituality, psychology and entrepreneurship so you, too, can be winning life. Now here's your host licensed marriage and family therapist, certified neuro emotional technique practitioner and certified entrepreneur coach, jason Wasser.
Speaker 2:All right, everybody, welcome back to another spectacular, insightful and empowering episode of the you Winning Life podcast and, as you know, eric is joining us today and we're gonna be talking about a bunch of really tactical and practical topics. So, eric, thanks so much for hanging out with us today.
Speaker 3:Jason, it was always a pleasure. Thank you for having me Of course.
Speaker 2:So you know, short of the bio that people get when they see the podcast pop up and the introduction that you get at the beginning of the episode, let's unpackage a little bit more of your personal journey, because, you know, one of the things that I love talking about is how do people get from point A to point, whatever it may be and it may not even be point B, maybe point Q at this point or R and people see individuals such as yourself only for where they're at now. They may hear about the story, but they don't get and understand what it took to get there that we can leverage and utilize for ourselves. So let's start off with that and then we'll take it to all the places that I know we're going to go to. So yeah.
Speaker 2:So who are you? What are you? What's going on? Let me throw that at you.
Speaker 3:Thank you, jason. I mean listen, first and foremost, I'm a father of two children, husband, you know, and in the last six years or so, I've built a mortgage business. You know, after meeting, you know teams and you know Fortune 50 companies, hundreds of people at a time, and you know I always had an entrepreneurial bug. Right, I always wanted to work for myself. So, you know, after leveraging, you know RSUs and stock options and whatnot right To really leave that world behind. I started a mortgage business and you know, just like any business, the first few years are just grinding it out and learning as much as you can. And then you start to scale and build teams and processes and whatnot. And that's where I'm at now, you know. So the mortgage industry is still my bread and butter. I've since, you know, built some auxiliary businesses just because of the conversations that I've been having in the mortgage world, you know, for example, you know I've used virtual assistants, isas, for quite some time and in the coaching world and I teach classes and whatnot. This comes up a lot, right? So I made a business out of that, right? So you know what, instead of me talking about it and you know, telling people where to go. Why can't I provide that service? So I partnered with somebody who helped me with the back-end operations, and we do have a virtual assistant company to help leverage, you know, small business owners. But mortgage is my bread and butter.
Speaker 3:In addition to that, you know, one of my passion projects is, you know, my daughter is a music recording artist, you know. So we started a small record label and we're just right. Now we're in the rumbles and tumble of things. Right, we're in the weeds, we're learning and you know it takes years, right to make it. So she's just reporting. And you know, we produced and released our own music video, right, and every other month we're releasing a single. So I'm learning the music business as well. So that's more of a passion project. But it does take money, jason, right, yeah, of course. So it's fun because I'm doing that alongside my daughter and that's her passion. That's amazing.
Speaker 2:That's amazing. So I want to go back to something that you said of, like you started off in one place and you had to learn what you had to learn, and then you jumped out and went entrepreneurial and then you had to kind of learn what you had to learn until you got to another level of success. And I'm hearing and knowing that that's consistently part of this process that we think that if we just do this long enough, we're going to be able to jump ship, start something new, and it's just going to be easy or we have everything we need ready to go. So I'm curious, just you know, as the first, maybe deep dive of our conversation is what didn't you know in these different developmental stages? That has been that once you learned it, you realized how foundationally powerful and impactful it was to what you needed to be doing, both personally and professionally.
Speaker 3:That's a great question, you know, listen, I think in the beginning I didn't know what I didn't know. So I was able to use some of my leadership skills to build teams, which I knew is something that needed to happen quickly to be successful in this world, and I was able to create good cultures and whatnot. But when I left my prior industry as a leader, I had a lot of people that report to me and I was more like the maestro right, like the. You know, I kind of had great people around me and I was a big, big picture kind of guy. And when I came into the mortgage industry I thought that that was gonna translate. But I learned real quickly that I had to learn right the weeds of the business so I could be dangerous enough, right, you know, I still surround myself with great people and I know who's gonna surpass my knowledge right, when I hire people, which is, you know, one of the great skill sets of really building a great team is hiring people that are better at using certain skill sets.
Speaker 3:But you know, I think I tried to move too fast and not learn right the fundamentals and spent as much time as fundamental. So, for example, I was always focused on connecting with people and sales and people gave me opportunities to help families. But, you know, I made mistakes because I wasn't in tune right with the details of my business and it took months and months and months to develop relationships and have opportunities to help. You know, families finance their homes but because of my lack of knowledge in some cases, you know, I lost those relationships quickly, right.
Speaker 3:So now, how I lead is you have to be good enough to do this on your own. You have to be dangerous enough to really be able to help a family and answer all questions before you really build a team, because you're gonna be the teacher, right, and you're gonna end up those people are gonna wind up excelling in a specific task along, you know, step along the process. But you have to be good, right, and I think that in this industry that I'm in, I'm kind of going back to that and saying, okay, what are some of the things that I've lost? I have to get better at this so I can teach my team and I can lead by example and set that example, and that's what I'm doing right now, jason.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the fundamentals and I see this in every aspect, like, as you know, when I'm working with families or couples or individuals, that we can only attract to the level of the awareness, the wisdom or the personal internal work, the therapeutic work that we've done right. We can't get anything greater than that. We can't attract a partner healthier than that. And you know, the whole idea is like you know, we attract what we've done right and what we're aware of and what we're not aware of. So when I hear people like, ah, this business partner screwed me over, I'm like, yeah, but like you met with them more than once and didn't see these things, so what's going on with you that you're not taking ownership and accountability for? Versus saying like, how did I know? How did I not know?
Speaker 2:Right, and I see this on every level of relationships and every level of even businesses, where there's that blind eye or that's that they don't even realize that the circuit breaker not only does it not exist, or that it exists, but it's also off right and they don't even know to look for that. So I find that's such a powerful component of personal growth and development, whether it's personal or professionally is how to know what to work on how to know how not to walk in with ego, how to not walk in with arrogance and cockiness, and I think one of the things that scares people from the non-tropinorial journey is seeing people who do carry that brash ego, grind, rise and grind mentality that doesn't necessarily fit authentically for them, versus seeing this as a path to, like, personal fulfillment and personal growth and, like you said, helping others.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, I think, you know, you have to always be a student. I think I think that the most successful people, right in any, in any field, right, are always inquisitive, are always trying to learn, no matter their level of success. And I think when you open to learning and and you know what you know, it doesn't matter the age is, it's experience, right, if there's a lot of young folk that doing things and that I want to do, right and and I asked questions and I'm inquisitive and I'm open, and that's how you really start to gain relationships and you start to, you know, really build a circle of influential people in your life. Right when you, when you come to them and say, hey, I want to learn from you in all aspects, whether it's from a business perspective right, if it's a family man, that you know that, just holding it down right. And you know, and, and especially since I'm branching off into the, you know, virtual assistant, you know world, right, I see I see people that are doing it 10 times better than me and I want to want to learn, and especially now, you know, in the music industry is totally foreign to me.
Speaker 3:Not only am I reading books to try to you know, you know, get the theory correct, but it's meeting with as many people as possible right, and and and I've been my, my daughter has been given opportunities because we've come with this hey, I want to learn from a family, mentality right and people. You know what success? Successful people want to want to teach right. And guess what, when you teach, you learn and you get better yourself too. So I think I think you talk about, you know you mentioned that that thing that's very important is is not having ego and and and just say, hey, I'm here to learn Right. Even even myself as the teacher, sometimes in classes and seminars, I can learn from my colleagues that have been doing this for less than me, because you know they might hear something right or know something or got taught something that I say, wow, like that. And I think that that's how you have to lead your life right and I think that that's how you kind of flatten that learning curve a little bit.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So one of the things I guess I want to ask is is you know you've taken on these new roles, these new responsibilities, these new passion projects, and one of the things I feel that people have a difficult time with is discerning between what they should go down the rabbit hole and take on themselves and what they should leverage out, even if you know it's that idea of like I can have 100% of something, or I can have, you know, 100% of nothing, or 20% of something, right, and then the other people like, well, if I do it all myself, then I'll have 100% of that. And I think that you're a good example of you know, especially with this virtual assistant mindset of like everything is about leverage and everything is about bringing people in that right and, like you said, you can only train them to the point of what you know and you can't get them past that. How have you discerned, or how have you learned to discern, between what you should be absolutely all in on and what you should leverage out?
Speaker 3:That's. That's another amazing question, and I think it all comes down to accountability, right, and I think not only do you have to always be learning, like I just mentioned, you have to be accountable and really get and really know who you are, which are good at and what you suck at Right, and I think we have to. You know, sometimes we're not honest with ourselves and if you know, like I know for a fact, that, for example, I hate conflict Right For so many years and I was a leader, right, I led through my personality and I gained, buy and, but you know, sometimes that's just not, you know that's not the way the world is Right, and I hate conflict and I avoid it right. So I think I have to have people in my team that run right towards that conflict right, because I can get better at it, but, but that's not innate in me. I also don't like details too much, right, I'm not in so, and I have to get better at those things. But like I know, for example, that I have to refer to somebody on my team is always going to fact check me right, and I'm not going to be able to do that because, because I'm good at building relationships, right, I'm good at big picture thinking, I'm good at rallying people. So I think you know that accountability knowing what you're good at and what you're not good at is going to allow you now to right, outsource higher people that are going to be doing, that are going to do the things that you're not that great at right.
Speaker 3:If, if building a business takes different types of personalities like, let's say, I had a partner at one point and we were opposites, right, you know he was really strong and the things that I was really weak on and it really worked, you know it really worked, you know. So the thing is that sometimes you got to just okay, what am I good at? Now? I know that I'm good at having conversations, talking to people, building relationships, teaching people. So, when I look at my day and I'm going back to accountability, right, and I'm very structured and that's also, I think, very important for any business, for any business to be able to be organized or is really be organized, and that comes with time but I'm able to look at my day and I'm able to say, ok, well, how do I spend my day today? How do I spend my day last, my week, last week? How do I spend my month? And if I was, if I wasn't doing the things that I was good at, right, then I would be able to maximize my potential. Right, and I teach that to my team.
Speaker 3:You know I say OK, well, if you're not doing sales related activities, right. If you're. If you're fighting fires all the time, right, what caused the fire? Instead of fighting, you know, I got to fix how that fire came to be in the first place, to eliminate those things in your day so you can focus on the things that you're good at. You can focus on those sales activities.
Speaker 3:And I think you know it goes back to accountability, and, and and looking at your, your day and you're weak and analyze in it, right, and, and you know, I think any goal is reachable, right, as long as you're realistic and as long as you reverse, engineer, right, and and say, ok, well, this is what I have to do on a monthly basis, on a weekly basis, on a daily basis, and and as long as you hold yourself accountable to those daily tasks, you're going to reach those goals, right? Or if you're not reaching those goals on week two or a month or one month in, ok, well, we have to change our activity and look at ourselves in the future and be honest with ourselves so we can change some of it. So then we can reach our goal. Many of us. What tends to happen, jason, is is is we wait too long to change? Yeah, and then we say, I well, the years almost over, right?
Speaker 2:or this is who I am, yeah yeah right, right, yeah, it's a big challenge and I see this right, even even with myself. Right I'm, you know I have. What I've realized is one of the limitations that you know I'm navigating and figuring out is I wasn't a great student when I was younger. I did really well in graduate school because it was something that I was excited about and motivated about, and I think a lot of people have that, especially academically, where you know they may not even have ever have that opportunity to be turned on to a particular study or subject. And I think it's also great about the world of, like you know, entrepreneurship and going out there and creating something, because it may have nothing to do with what you learned in school, but for me it was like not realizing that like I love doing this, like strategic mindset, therapeutic work and seeing things and asking questions that Carlos asks. That wasn't taught to me in school, right, because it's like here's a curriculum, you do the curriculum, you know the curriculum, you pass. If you don't, you fail. And there was no creativity to that. You know there was no, there was no music in that, there was no right, there was no play in that, and I see a lot of people struggling, including myself, at different developmental stages, where you do hit the wall, where you might be doing everything right, but it also just seems so exhausting to try to do anything more or differently, and how easy it is to just and it's not because it's not a positive mindset that they're coming, it's not because they're not listening to the right podcast and reading the right books and watching the right YouTube videos and talking to people like you.
Speaker 2:It's you know, I think, in 2023, people are also burnt out in general and we do have this overwhelming even in the social media world and the podcast world. Right, I'm one of them. God knows how many millions of podcasts that exist out there. At what point do we need to just not get more information and just lead back into the one simple step, and who do we need to talk to to get that one simple step? That's just a bit different than where we were, so we can move away from that fatigue. And I'm wondering if you have anything to speak to on that, because I see it. I see it with the people who I'm interviewing, you know, on my show and they may be radically and wildly successful multiple aspects of their life but there's something in their life that's still causing them that fatigue.
Speaker 3:Yeah, listen, I think that's what we're always, you know, trying to figure out right, that balance, and especially the people that you have on this podcast, I'm pretty sure they're highly successful and highly motivated and those individuals have this motivation where, right, sometimes, you know, that motivation can cause strain and some other spokes of the wheel and light, right. So it's really about finding that balance and we're always, always working towards it. Right, I have my goals, right when it's my health and my family and my finances and my profession, and I don't think I'm able to say that, you know, I was fully satisfied in every spoke of the wheel at any given point in my life, yet, right, so I think it's about constant work and I think what's made it harder in that fatigue? Jason, and you mentioned social media and whatnot. I think you know that same comparison is a thief of all joy, right, yeah, and we see it in front of other people. We're comparing ourselves whether we might be happy for people, but subconsciously, and I think that that's where some of the fatigue comes in because, right, we're comparing ourselves to highlight reels. We're comparing ourselves to where we think we should be, where man, like, sometimes, where we're at is exactly where we need to be and if we were just more present, we would just be happier and not as tired. You know, and I struggle with that too, right, I think you know. You know, am I spending enough time with my family? Am I doing enough, you know, for work? Like, I might feel like I haven't figured out one day, but the other day I might feel like what am I doing? I think that that's a constant struggle, but I think it's surrounding yourself with the right people in your life to remind you, right? Hey, you know, if you're going too hard, hey, like what is this? Why are you going too hard in this? For, like, you know, like what are you thinking about? Like we're here today? Well, let's enjoy the moment. Today I heard of I think was it Howie Mandel was in a podcast and I saw maybe a Tik Tok clip or something right, and you know Howie Mandel, you know he's known for being a germaphobe, right, and just have a little bit of anxiety always.
Speaker 3:And he talked about how he really in his, in his age, and you know he, with his age, he's really now being present instead of being anxious about tomorrow or depressed about the past. He was doing a podcast and he goes. I'm grateful and you know what, jason, I'm grateful for doing this podcast, and sometimes you don't think about that. Sometimes you know what? I'm grateful that you found me, that we're able to have this conversation and saying, wow, you know, you know I'm able to hopefully provide value to at least one person and help somebody out.
Speaker 3:And I think that when we, when we try to live in the moment, I think that fatigue is going to wear away a little bit, right, because I feel like we're always chasing something, and I think that is not, is not, you know, is mental fatigue. I think, you know, and I struggle with that. I am very highly motivated. You know, I woke up today at 430 in the morning, right, and. But then there's sometimes where you can stay to bed to 10 in the morning and play with the dogs and be okay. So I think that's a constant battle. I think that that's what we always try to seek, is that balance, so that way we feel full and all aspects of our life right, and who knows if we'll ever achieve it right, but as long as we're working towards it, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm just resonating with what you're saying on so many levels because it's, you know, you have all these books like the Miracle Morning and the right, the 4am club and the you know right, that whole thing, and you just hinted at a little bit of that in a way, and I also really appreciate, like, but here, but it's also okay to stay with the dog and with right and stay in bed with the family and right and just lounge, and you know, I think that there's not enough about when not to write, these are the things that you should do.
Speaker 2:These are the right, these are the 10 steps, these are the five steps and if you follow this method and if you all this book and you know, and God bless, all those people who are putting that out there that are working for them but I know that there's not a one size fits all, but also, no one's talking about when not to do this, which there has to be, like you just said, right, and I think that's kind of maybe the least known secret is these are all great, right, you want to follow the 10x rule, or you want to follow the Miracle Morning, or you want to follow whatever, any of these wonderful, you know, you know mindset books that are out there, the Wave, the Seal or whatever right, or you know the David Goggins stuff and all those things. But when do you not do that?
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, and I've and I've.
Speaker 3:You know what.
Speaker 3:You know, my family keeps me in check sometimes, right, you know, sometimes, and that's why you want to be surrounded with people, right, and I keep my employees in check, and sometimes, you know, they keep, and I think that you have to, you know, surround yourself with people that are going to keep you in check, because you know, I see myself present, you know, with my family around, and it's a beautiful moment.
Speaker 3:But I'm thinking about something, an idea that I have, right, or business, or whatever. And you know, my wife would be like hey, hey, like you know, like we're here, right, and I snap out of it because, because it's true, right, like you know, my kids are older, my daughter's 20, my son is 16, and down the road, we're going to be empty nesters and we're going to miss those moments. And I see myself when she tells me that I fast forward 10 years from now, where, where I'm like you know what, like I remember they were here and and, and I was thinking about something else, or work, and I missed that. I missed them, you know, yeah, so so you have to have people in your life that are going to keep you in check, you know.
Speaker 2:How have you found, through your journey about having to ask or kick those things out of your life, throughout your your entrepreneur and personal journey, of realizing that's something, whether it's it's any aspect right, it's something in your personal world, something in your professional world, and and becoming the type of person that knows this needs to go and then asserting that happens because I find that that's very difficult for a lot of people, because that, right, we all want to be liked, we all want to be benevolent, we all want to be like. You know they like me, you know I've done good for them and I don't want people to think bad about me. What, what has that been? Because I know that that's one of the key markers of success? Is that discernment and clarity of those things, what, what has that been like for you on your journey?
Speaker 3:It's another great question. You know what one of the things that I'm most proud of you know. You know the few years in the business. I became a top performer and you know I was able to build a hundred million dollar branch with my partner and my third year in a business, and and, and I'm proud of that. But what I'm most proud of is I I believe you talking about work life balance and I still think I need to Be present right when I need to be present and be appreciative of the now. But I'm most proud of Feel. I feel what I have. I create my own schedule and I create my own time. And have I lost business over that? Jason, absolutely, you know. You know, because you know, I remember being on stage a couple years ago and a highly successful broker, you know, was wearing a A shirt and you know, and you know if you listen to those podcast, I'm not saying that is the wrong way to do business, highly successful, but yeah, that's just as pick up your phone, right.
Speaker 3:And I remember saying at any time, at any given time, pick up your phone. Nine o'clock, pick up your phone. We just pick up your phone. I don't, I don't work that way? Right, I don't operate that way. I have a calendar, right, I work through Calendly.
Speaker 3:Anybody that I work with knows I'm very responsive, but I'm not gonna just pick up the phone every time you call, because if I'm I'm, if I'm talking in a podcast with Jason, I'm, I'm working, I'm talking to you. If I'm talking to a client, right, I'm talking to that client, you know. So if I'm, if I'm on my son's football game, I'm there. So what happens is I block out time, and that has helped me a lot, right, by using a calendar has helped me a lot. And by setting those expectations Around my team and around the people that work with me has helped me a lot. I've lost business because of it. Right, because it's a 930 and I get a call, I'm not gonna pick up. Even if I could, I'm not because I don't want to set that expectation. Yeah, right. So that's that has helped me being organized and being time blocking and and and being able to. So, jesse Eichler, right, I have. He has something called the big ass.
Speaker 2:Calendar club. Yep, I, I'm in that, I'm in the club. Be what you're in the wire.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I, I love that because, you got to look at your year and you get to say, okay, okay, these are my milestones for work, so this is what I want to accomplish. So what happens is and you color coded and whatnot, right, and it kind of says well, like my calendar is full of all work related stuff. I don't have anything with family here, right? I gotta take a vacation in balance right.
Speaker 3:Right. So I think it's great because being organized allows you to be more balanced, right. Even though I'm seeking to continue to be more present and do more things, I feel like I've developed that reputation in my field, right, where you know, even some people say, well, you know you call, everybody's not gonna pick up the phone. I even say, I even tell, I even tell my realtor partners, right, you know, there's probably a chance, there's 90% chance, that I won't pick up the phone when you call, right, but that's because but this is why, right, I'm very organized, I'm following up, I'm gonna follow up on your people, right, but I will respond to you right away. And then I have a team also. That helps a lot of times. People know who to call in my team instead of calling me. So what I do is I try to deflect Calls right, when they don't have to be directed towards me, right.
Speaker 2:So that's the leverage part of it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, right, and I think this goes back down to and I really it's funny I'm constantly going back to you know the root cause, like you said, like what's the root cause like, instead of focusing on with your sales team and they're, like you know, like, okay, what's causing this in the first place? You know, I'm finding that a lot of struggles that people are having, root cause stuff is just boundaries, or nonbound, or having a lack of boundaries, and how many things can we have right, whether it's work, life balance and and professionalism, and you know how many one too many drinks or One too many, you know spending one too many dollars or whatever it is. That's all going back to boundaries and I maybe will Put it out there for those that are listening to see if, like they can look at this our conversation through that lens of, is everything we're talking about really just a boundary? Is the key to success really just Identifying, having clean and holding accountable to those and having other people hold you to those, because, right, work, life balance is boundaries.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, that that's very interesting thought, right? I, I, you know, I think that that's a great way to look at things you know we talk about, you know, looking at root causes and and I have every I recruited a large team To my office and some of them, you know, they have different levels of experience but I said you know, I said, hey, you know what, one of the one of the best ways that we learn is from pain. Right, it's, it's, it's pain hopefully Right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so, so I have a call every Friday, right, 30 minutes, and I call it pain point Fridays. Hey, I want everybody to discuss their pain this week because If you might experience a pain that we can all learn from so we can avoid that pain in the future, right, if, if there's a specific you know Family that you're helping, that we miss deadlines and is causing extra stress, let's, let's dig into that. What was the root cause of why? What, what could we do better? So I try to really instill accountability and everybody that works with me, because, first of all, I want people that are accountable, I want people to look in the mirror and say, hey, what could I have done better, instead of pointing fingers, because we never grow, we point fingers, right.
Speaker 3:So, so we have that that's on our calendar every Friday at 12 o'clock 30 minutes, pain point Fridays. Let's, let's learn from each other's pain. And the whole point is I said, hey, guys, if in 30, if in 30 days, even 90 days, we still have to have 30 minute calls, guess what we're not learning from the pain. Right, we're doing this so we can eliminate these calls. Right, that's the kind of team that I want.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I do believe, like the beliefs, assumptions and expectations we have about whatever that particular issue is, is what has to be fleshed out, because it's not the thing, it's your belief about the thing, right? It's not that a person cut me off. It's my belief about what? What? It's not even the right, it's not even that linear, like that person person cut me off and therefore they're not a good person. It's what is my belief about the type of person that would cut somebody else off, right? Oh well, they're self-centered and they only care about themselves and they put themselves on pedestals, and okay. So then, how do I make that universal? What is my belief about anybody who is self-centered and anybody who puts themself first?
Speaker 2:Right now, you're getting to the nitty-gritty of where this might be showing up in multiple scenarios that you don't even realize, and I think that that beautiful, that Paint White Friday, is such a cool thing where you can unpackage beliefs, assumptions and expectations, going even deeper to that, and okay. Well, where else is this showing up? Even outside of our calls and outside of our, you know, outside of this business for everybody, because wherever we go, there we are, we show up with that. We just don't realize we're oblivious to it in some arenas of our life and it's completely blatant in some arenas of our life.
Speaker 3:That's powerful.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 3:I love that.
Speaker 2:So walk me through as we, as we kind of round up of you know where as anybody, you're listening to this and obviously there are people who are really you know, I'm assuming and hoping y'all are connecting to this really awesome conversation. What are some of the resources and tools in which you know I mean, I know you're up in Jersey, but you know where people can obviously, said, you do speaking engagements and there's other stuff going on in the world what are the different ways that people can benefit from your experience, from your wisdom, from your, from your teams and everything that you're putting out into the world, and and then how we can leverage that.
Speaker 3:Well, I think you know, first, before a teacher, I'm a student, right, so I'm constantly learning and evolving, you know. So, when I do have the speaking engagements and one that I usually have, maybe another partner right, even another industry, so we have different perspectives. But I think, I think, you know, I've always had a coach, so it's not like, you know, you're listening to just Eric SFS speak. You're listening to a coach that has had a lot more years of experience and success that I have had, right, and anything that I get taught, at least to my team, and then even things like this, jason, these podcasts, and you know, I listen to a lot of great people and a lot of great ideas and I use that in my conversations with people. Right, I tried to talk to top performers in the industry so I can know what their mindset is and what they're doing. You know, and I use my platform to do that. You know, I'm the incoming president of NAREP North Jersey, which is the National Association of Hispanic Willis-A-Professionals, and we're the largest Latino organization in the country and, yeah, you know what I use that to now talk to highly successful you know these realtors and lenders and make millions of dollars on a yearly basis and I invite them to speak, right, so we do have.
Speaker 3:So what you can find me, for example, is we have four events a year, right, educational events to really educate our real estate professionals, and a lot of times, not even me speaking is these highly successful individuals that are speaking. We have one on October 12th, right in New Jersey, you know. So we try to do it. Tonight I have a, so I talk about, so I bring forth people that are already excelling in this tight inventory market to teach others, but then I'm also going tonight, you know, to a local church, right at eight o'clock in Newark, new Jersey, to teach first time home buying seminars, right, so, right.
Speaker 3:So I go from hundreds of people to a room maybe with 15 people, because this is what I really enjoy is, you know, is helping people through education, and that's how I've built my business, and I know that that's how I'm going to continue to build my business is right, not only this business, but others as well, because, you know, I love to teach and by teaching I feel like I get better. Right, I learn when I teach, yeah, so, but yeah, you know, I do these events through NARAP, I do masterminds, right, I do webinars and seminars, you know so. So, yeah, you know, I always just try to see what's out there and see what people are feeling, and my job is to have conversations with people every day, so I think I'm in tune with what people are feeling out there and what they need Absolutely.
Speaker 2:And where can people track you down?
Speaker 3:You go to Instagram Eric Estevez the lender. Sorry, instagram is the Eric Estevez. I just mentioned my TikTok, which is Eric Estevez the lender, because I'm also on TikTok and I try to be funny on there as well. I try to put humor in with lending, which is typically like an oxymoron, you know. But yeah, we just had a speaking of that, we just had a nation's lending, we had our first comedy night ever, so we had four New York City comedians come in last week. I have a friend of mine who's a comedian, professional comedian and what we did is we said, hey, you know what? Let's recognize the people that we're doing business with. So we call it, we call the closings in comedy, and then it was a wild success and now we want to do this every month right, that's awesome.
Speaker 3:Where the people that are helping families with us, we can go ahead and we can laugh together, because I think that's one of the best things that we can do to connect.
Speaker 2:I think that's such a good opportunity that anybody listening, in any industry whether you're working for someone else or you're an employee, or you're an employer, or you're in the entrepreneurial space is finding the overlapping, you know, between what your industry that you're in is doing and something else that you're passionate about or that you find joyful and playful, and bringing people together to do that. And what a great opportunity for people to connect, for people who are like-minded, to be amongst and around each other. Right, whether again, like, whether you're speaking on a stage in front of a thousand people or whether you're going to a church and speaking to 15 people, right, everybody, I'm assuming, showing up it's a safe assumption is that they're like-minded people that want to learn something new, that want to be around other people that are also putting themselves in this place to do something that's uncomfortable and new for them and sometimes, like you said in this comedy evening, also could be fun. So, you know, I challenge people out there to think about that. Like, what could you do in your own specific world, whether it's personally or professionally, where you can add and invite more people to join you, whether it's a hobby and you're somewhere and you're like I really want to do this, but I don't have anybody. Are you inviting them to do it?
Speaker 2:Are you getting two or three people together and saying, well, what can we do and who can we invite amongst the two or three of us, instead of trying to do it all alone? And if it's professionally, where can you overlap with another industry or just something that you wouldn't think would be connected but it's still in alignment with that, and invite people to join you on that journey? And I think that's such a cool wrapping up point for our conversation. And, eric, I really do want to thank you. I know we had a few a month ago. We tried to connect and it didn't work out and thankfully it was able to happen today and I'm really, really appreciative for the deep dive that we went into.
Speaker 3:Jason, thank you very much for your time. I enjoyed my time with you and, yeah, we talk to me guys. I'd love to help you. If you have any questions, with anything really say related or business related, I would love to have a conversation Awesome.
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Speaker 3:Thank you.
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